The trauma of going through a divorce is devastating to both men and women. What’s worse is that this trauma is ongoing. From the time the marriage began going south, your emotions have been stretched and in high gear. The sad part about this is that when you were still in the marriage, you sought support from your friends, your church, or even, perhaps, in the arms of someone else to help you get your marriage back on track. But when the “D” word begins to be used, your faithful support group disappears.

We all know that divorce happens. The divorce rate in the US is over 50%. But what you may not realize is that while more women initiate the divorce, its the men that lose the most. It’s by design, too.

Ending a marriage is never fun nor is it easy. When you stood at the alter, whether it was last year or twenty years ago, the thought of divorce probably never entered your mind. If it did, the thought of divorce was quickly dismissed. The unthinkable then has now become a distinct possibility or even an inescapable reality.