Over and over again, people going through a divorce make the same huge mistakes that cause them additional frustrations and even tens of thousands of dollars.  Yet, they continue to make them. If you are determined to get through your divorce with your emotions as well as your finances in tact, you must avoid at all cost these 3 divorce mistakes:

Biggest Divorce Mistake #1: Not recognizing the marriage is over.  It may seem academic since you are n the midst of a divorce, but if you do not come to grips with the fact that your married life is being torn apart, you will lose and lose big time emotionally.  The divorce process speaks for itself and it’s a very expensive process as well.  People do not do things that are hard and expensive unless they mean to do it as well as planning it.  That’s right, you may find yourself in the midst of a divorce suddenly, but the thought of divorce as well as the divorce planning has been going on for months with your spouse.  They are determined to get out of the marriage; they have already made the emotional break.  They are moving on.

Failing to accept the fact that your soon-to-be ex-spouse has left will just prolong your suffering, not theirs.  They are already on the recovery road.

Biggest Divorce Mistake #2: Being unprepared for the counterattack.  It’s true in war that when one side attacks, the other side not only has to respond but prepares a way to strike back at you.  The same is true with a divorce.  If you filed the papers, you better be well prepared for the consequence.  You hurt your spouse to the core; they will want revenge and make you hurt as much as they are.  The last thing that they will want is for you to walk away pain free.  Don’t be shocked by what the other will do.  Your prized Ford Mustang may just be sold for $1.00 to some stranger at the nearest shopping mall.

Biggest Divorce Mistake #3: Not believing your spouse would do that.  Over and over again, people going through the divorce are living at the alter and not the divorce courtroom.  They leave themselves wide open for calamity.  If you are getting divorce don’t think that your loving spouse wouldn’t abuse those credit cards, or go out and squander assets.  They will.  Don’t think for a second that your spouse wont accuse you of marital abuse when they were nominating you for spouse of the year the week before they were served.  Don’t think for a second that your spouse won’t try to leave you penniless.  They will.

If you want to get through the divorce process in tack, realize your reality and protect yourself emotionally and financially by making smart objective choices.