Okay. You just filed for divorce and if this is your first one, you are probably wondering what is going to happen next. If you are using a divorce attorney, they may have provided you with an overview of the process, or perhaps they just listened to your complaining (here’s a free divorce tip: never complain to your lawyer; they are not a therapist, and they charge a lot). But, they may not have. You’re clueless and confused about what will come next.

The trauma of going through a divorce is devastating to both men and women. What’s worse is that this trauma is ongoing. From the time the marriage began going south, your emotions have been stretched and in high gear. The sad part about this is that when you were still in the marriage, you sought support from your friends, your church, or even, perhaps, in the arms of someone else to help you get your marriage back on track. But when the “D” word begins to be used, your faithful support group disappears.